Random Issue #6

                                   

Online social reality

 We live in an era where information has been supplanted

by connections as the leading most crucial way to bring yourself higher in thescale of success. After all-"It’s not what you know, it’s who you know.“So may be this is one of the reasons our society has come to a point wherefriendship is only virtual and people -only means to an end. Network of coarsehas provided us with the amazing opportunity to make our big world a smallerone thus being even more closely knit together by all the lies and pretence we have guarded ourselves with ,ironically, only to seem more affable and approachable .What is more it has been proven that people tend not to act as themselves when connecting on line, though may be not such a surprising ,ironically, only to seem more affable and approachable .What is more it hasbeen proven that people tend not to act as themselves when connecting on line,though may be not such a surprising discovery why pretend -only for the business opportunity -probably not .In the cyber world not only are we given the chance to make new acquaintances ,the so called followers,-probably not .In the cyber world not only are we given the chance to make newacquaintances ,the so called followers, but we can also recreate ourselves all over again, omitting all those foibles we have omitting all those foibles we have hated about us while at the same time elevating those qualities ,praising those actions we are so proud of we would share with the whole world to see .So we do it and eventually we start to think "I am so much better than all my Facebook friends. Look at them neither are there any achievements ,nor likes on their wall". You do it ,yet not to share all your fortunes and misfortunes with  not to share all your fortunes and misfortunes with  the closest friends -or in this case only your achievements - but to boost your self-confidence .Yes you may have 2000 likes on a
likes on a picture or 400 likes on a post ,you may have even 30 000 0000 friends or followers nevertheless what does that mean- you are all strangers trying to compete against each other in a popularity contest in which you are your own judges and there are no rules ,making it impossible for you to win ,but only to crave for more and more followers ,thus leading to even more likes and no complete satisfaction. And your so called strong ties, or close friends, are the root of your self-esteem inflation and determine how you act on line. In the end, they are who you want to impress, why you keep up with digital appearances and what you ultimately base your online identity on. And unfortunately this could lead only to one thing-spending considerable time building large networks of shallow connections, grotesquely at the expense of loosing the only few cherished friendships upon which you can truly rely. And what might be even worse is that we don't even you to win ,but only to crave for more and more followers ,thus leading to evenmore likes and no complete satisfaction. And your so called strong ties, orclose friends, are the root of your self-esteem inflation and determine how youact on line. In the end, they are who you want to impress, why you keep up withdigital appearances and what you ultimately base your online identity on. Andunfortunately this could lead only to one thing-spending considerable timebuilding large networks of shallow connections, grotesquely at the expense ofloosing the only few cherished friendships upon which you can truly rely. Andwhat might be even worse is that we don't even realize it, not until the point when we are surrounded by so many but still feel completely alone. Social media forces upon us a feeling of intimacy and closeness that point when we are surrounded by so many but still feel completely alone. Socialmedia forces upon us a feeling of intimacy and closeness that doesn'tactually exist since , technology and our use of it isn’t – as we'veall hoped – bringing us closer together. In fact, it may be driving us fartherapart, as we know more and more people, but know less and less about each of them.So next time you think "O, I know that guy he is great- intelligent,handsome, well behaved" -remember you know nothing but only the thingsthey want you to know- do not be deceived!